Although I resent HOW the MDA tried to erase Jerry...

Going off on the Suzan part, I find it annoying that she keeps changing the story of how much and to what degree Jerry actually had contact with her, and gave her financial support when she was a child. Not really sure what to believe. She's said that Jerry used to have a room next to her parent's sometimes when they went on vacation, and that he would come over and play with her sometimes. She even recalled that he and her mother took her to school once, and that he paid for her until Suzan's mother was re-married.

Yes, he always knew. She said that he provided money for her until, Lynn Dixon (her mother) married Hy Uchitel. He would sometimes take a room next to her family on vacations, and just "happened" to be staying at the same place. He also provided reward money for the capture of those who mugged her at one point in time. In another story, she said that Jerry had played ball with her as a child, I believe.

She said that the 3 yr affair between Jerry and her mother became an engagement when Jerry gave Dixon a ring. But Jerry couldn’t get a divorce.
Suzan was born on Feb. 3, 1952. Jerry was on the road at the time promoting his soon-to-be released, Sailor Beware, so he convinced Berle to visit Dixon in the hospital on his behalf.

"As Suzan’s mother kept the true identity of her daughter’s biological father a secret from Hy, she nonetheless found ways to reunite father and daughter whether they met on Miami Beach for several play dates.

A good example of that cooperation was that when Suzan was 2, Jerry and Lynn (together) enrolled Suzan in the American Academy of Dramatic Arts.

And when the Uchitels vacationed in Miami Beach, they stayed at the posh Fontainebleau hotel. So did Jerry—that’s where he filmed perhaps his most famous movie, The Bellboy, in 1960. During the filming of that movie, Jerry met with Lynn several times in order for him to spend time with his daughter Suzan.

“When I was little, we’d have a cabana around the pool and he’d get the one next to ours so he could be near us. He’d play with me in the sand, all of that,” Suzan said. “He’d be silly. He say something like, ‘Let’s play ball,’ and then he’d fall all over the place.”

Back in New York, they’d arrange discreet meetings periodically and often cross paths by pure chance. After all, they socialized in the same circles. Publicly, meanwhile, Jerry led a happily married life: By 1964, he and Palmer had six sons including one adopted—but no daughters.

“He was very affectionate. He gave me gifts, dolls. And I loved dolls,” Suzan said. “He wanted a daughter but he could never tell anyone he already had one.”

Certainly her sons could have helped her at this point a well. One son seems to do somewhat well for himself at least. Her mental issues are unfortunately caused from her accident. Also I don't think Gary can even help out his own mother at this point, since he had Rick Sapphire set up a Gofundme account for her. So I don't think he will be helping out Suzan.

Lynn Dixon was for Jerry what Jeanne Biegger was to Dean, and the affairs happened at about the same time. Oddly they were also cheating on their wives and Lynn and Jeanne, with Gloria DeHaven and June Allyson, and who knows who else. I wonder at what point he asked for a divorce/gave Lynn a ring.

Well despite the affairs and everything they still loved each other and he wrote to her and called her every day. She did leave him a few times, during the period of the Lynn Dixon thing, because of his behavior (parties, too many people at their house all the time, his attitude, affairs, etc) and not being grown up. Honestly he shouldn't married that young, and he was just doing what any other person in their 20's does, fall in love with a bunch of different people constantly, party a lot, be irresponsible, and have unexpected pregnancies. lol. I believe that he loved Patti a lot, and that he could have been in love/infatuation with others too. It can happen and just depends on the person. Unfortunately many people do not understand this. I think a lot of his problems could have been solved if he hadn't gotten married so early.

You don't think she was in love with him then?

Well, at a certain point in the book, Patti is talking about Ted Fiorito and writes: "Ted was not pleased with my instant infatuation with Jerry and our dating caused a lot of tension" I mean she is saying that she was very attracted to him. She left the band to be with Jerry when Jerry wasn't famous yet! So I don't know...
I also think that they got married too soon. At that time was normal to get married very young. I also believe that both Jerry and Patti had some serious childhood trauma and they both were looking for someone to love and they wanted to be loved so they fell into each other's arms really fast! They needed each other. About Suzan, I think that if Patti knew it, she probably told Jerry not to make it official. She might have felt embarrassed (obviously) and she was also very Catholic! She always said to him to kinda do what he wanted to do (sexually with other women), but to keep it for himself! There is soooooooo much we don't know. It's complicated and if you are a famous person , it makes it even more complicated.